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# Family Affairs

Education for Families in Tradition

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## Pages

- [Online Parenting Courses for Divorcing Families](https://www.familyaffairs.org/) - Family Affairs™ provides Court approved online parenting courses for Divorcing Families. Our Impact of Divorce on Children class helps children cope with divorce and separation.
- [Our Courses](https://www.familyaffairs.org/our-courses/) - Save! Both IODA and IODC – $50.00 Save $16.00 by enrolling in both of these courses together and meet state requirements of 5-6 hours. 6 hour class with certificate Impact of Divorce on Children (IODC) – $38.00 If you have children, you must take this course to meet the minimum requirements of all courts. Este curso
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- [What Others Say](https://www.familyaffairs.org/what-others-say/) - best live chat What others say about our courses… “I loved the course!! This stage is not very easy for both the parents but most of all the child. Therefore these courses and study guides are a perfect way to start in the right track. Thank you!” “YOUR ONLINE CUSTOMER SERVICE IS WONDERFUL!!! THANK YOU
- [About Us](https://www.familyaffairs.org/about-us/) - best live chat About The mission of Family Affairs is twofold; helping families in transition by providing easily accessible and low cost access to an excellent parenting education program and materials, and secondly, using those fees to benefit charitable organizations. Charitable Beneficiaries Family Affairs supports the following charitable organizations through donations of equity received from
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## Memberships

- [Money Issues in Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/money-issues-in-divorce/) - 2 hour class with certificate
- [The Complete Parents Forever Program](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/the-complete-parents-forever-program/) - Save $45.00 by enrolling in the complete Parents Forever Program. Includes Impact of Divorce On Children, Impact of Divorce on Adults, Money Issues in Divorce, Legal Issues and the Role of Mediation in Divorce, and Pathways to a New Life. 12 hours with certificate
- [Pathways to a New Life](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/pathways-to-a-new-life/) - 2 hour class with certificate
- [Legal Issues and the Role of Mediation in Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/) - 2 hour class with certificate
- [Impacto del Divorcio en los Niños](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/) - Descripción: Los niños son frecuentemente a los que el divorcio afecta más. Este curso se enfoca en lo que los niños experimentan y como los padres pueden llevar a sus hijos a través de esta etapa de transición sin ponerlos en medio del conflicto. Los temas cubiertos incluyen: Comprendiendo lo que los niños experimentan durante
- [Impacto del Divorcio en los Adultos](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/) - Descripción: Ayuda a los padres a comprender como los afecta el divorcio y sugiere maneras de sobrellevar constructivamente con el estrés, enojo y conflicto que lo acompañan. La unidad incluye discusión acerca de asuntos de seguridad, abuso del cónyuge, abuso infantil y enfermedades transmitidas sexualmente. Formato: Basado en la Web con pruebas en línea. Horas:
- [Impact of Divorce on Children (IODC)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/student/) - If you have children, you must take this course to meet the minimum requirements of all courts. Este curso es en inglés. Por favor, desplácese hacia abajo para inscribirse en la clase español. 4 hour class with certificate
- [Impact of Divorce on Adults (IODA)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/impact-of-divorce-on-adults-ioda/) - 2 hour class with certificate
- [Both IODA and IODC](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/both-ioda-and-iodc/)
- [Ambos Impactos del Divorcio en Niños y Adultos](https://www.familyaffairs.org/register/ambos-impactos-del-divorcio-en-ninos-y-adultos/) - Descripción: Inscríbase tanto para el Impacto del Divorcio en los Niños y el Impacto del Divorcio en los Adultos. Formato: Basado en la Web con pruebas en línea. Horas: 6

## Certificates

- [MIID](https://www.familyaffairs.org/certificate/miid/)
- [IODC](https://www.familyaffairs.org/certificate/509/)
- [IODA](https://www.familyaffairs.org/certificate/ioda/)
- [IDA](https://www.familyaffairs.org/certificate/ida/)
- [IDN](https://www.familyaffairs.org/certificate/idn/)
- [PTANL](https://www.familyaffairs.org/certificate/ptanl/)
- [LIID](https://www.familyaffairs.org/certificate/liid/)

## Courses

- [Legal Issues and the Role of Mediation in Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/course/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/) - Offers an introduction to the legal process and mediation. Components include: Methods of dispute resolution, How to select an attorney, Custody, visitation, maintenance and child support, Mediation as an option.
- [Pathways to a New Life](https://www.familyaffairs.org/course/pathways-to-a-new-life/)
- [Impact of Divorce on Adults](https://www.familyaffairs.org/course/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/) - Helps parents understand how divorce impacts them and suggests ways to cope constructively with the accompanying stress, anger and conflict. The unit includes discussion about safety issues, spousal abuse, child abuse and sexually transmitted diseases.
- [Money Issues in Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/course/money-issues-in-divorce/) - Money is a big issue in divorce. This course suggests ways to cope with the emotional, social and economic aspects of living with reduced income. Topics covered include Adjusting to changes in income, Understanding the costs of raising children, Rethinking how to spend money, Setting money goals, How to talk to your children about money,
- [Impacto del Divorcio en los Niños](https://www.familyaffairs.org/course/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/) - Usted y su familia están pasando por un tiempo de transición. El divorcio posiblemente va a afectar a cada uno de sus hijos de manera diferente, según su edad y su desarrollo emocional. Es importante que se eduque al respecto para que pueda atender las necesidades de sus hijos de la mejor manera y evitar
- [Impacto del Divorcio en los Adultos](https://www.familyaffairs.org/course/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/)
- [Impact of Divorce on Children](https://www.familyaffairs.org/course/impact-of-divorce-on-children/) - Children are often impacted the hardest during divorce. This course focuses on what children experience and how parents can lead their children through this time of transition without putting them in the middle of the conflict. Topics covered include: Understanding what children experience when their parents divorce; Strengthening communication skills; Parenting strategies; How to develop

## Units

- [Start Here](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-1/start-here/) - PLEASE READ THIS PAGE BEFORE STARTING YOUR COURSE!!! You must complete the course sections successively, meaning you must do each section in a row, one after the other. If you attempt to take the quizzes and exam without first going through all the material leading to the particular quiz, you will not be allowed to take the
- [Disclosures & Policies](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-1/disclosures-policies-2/) - Disclosure Statement The material in this course was developed by educators at the University of Minnesota Extension. The material is provided as educational material. Course material is not intended as a substitute for legal, ethical or clinical advice. It is not consultation and is not treatment. The course expresses the opinion and understanding of the
- [Start Here](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-1/start-here-2/) - SPAM FILTER NOTE: We respond to ALL e-mail. If you do not hear back from us you or your internet service may be running a spam filter that is blocking our e-mail or your e-mail my not be working. SAFE SENDER: Please be sure to add info@familyaffairs.org to your safe sender list to ensure that we can
- [Navegación y Organización del Curso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-1/navegacion-y-organizacion-del-curso/) - Este curso está dividido en secciones. Cada sección contiene enlaces a las páginas y documentos de Asuntos Familiares. También hay enlaces a sitios Web externos. La mayoría de la gente no termina el curso en una sesión. Usted puede cerrar y volver a iniciar la sesión en el curso en cualquier momento usando su contraseña
- [Aviso de Derechos de Reproducción](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-1/aviso-de-derechos-de-reproduccion-2/) - Todos los materiales en este curso son propiedad intelectual © 2022 Family Affairs. Además, todo el material de Parents Forever (Padres para Siempre) es propiedad intelectual de la Universidad de Minnesota. La propiedad intelectual Family Affairs no aplica a cualquier material basado en el Internet al cual haya enlaces desde este curso. Los enlaces al material externo
- [Declaración de Divulgación](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-1/declaracion-de-divulgacion-2/) - El material en este curso está basado en práctica clínica establecida, experiencia clínica e investigación. El material es proporcionado como material educativo. El material del curso no tiene la intención de sustituir la asesoría legal, ética o clínica. No es consulta y no es tratamiento. El curso expresa la opinión y entendimiento del autor en
- [Bienvenidos y Objetivos del Curso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-1/bienvenidos-y-objetivos-del-curso-2/) - ¡Bienvenido! Parents ForeverTM es un curso educativo diseñado para mejorar la calidad de la relación de los padres en situaciones de divorcio. El énfasis general está en ofrecer a los niños la oportunidad de crecer en un ambiente de hogar libres de quedar atrapados en medio del conflicto de los padres. Parents ForeverTM es un programa basado
- [Introducción](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/introduccion-2/) - Usted y su familia están pasando por un tiempo de transición. El divorcio posiblemente va a afectar a cada uno de sus hijos de manera diferente, según su edad y su desarrollo emocional. Es importante que se eduque al respecto para que pueda atender las necesidades de sus hijos de la mejor manera y evitar
- [El Empate](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/el-empate/)
- [Etapas de dolor y pérdida en los niños](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/etapas-de-dolor-y-perdida-en-los-ninos/) - Cuando los padres se divorcian, los niños deben enfrentar muchos cambios: cambios en la estructura familiar, en el lugar dónde viven, algunas veces, cambios en las relaciones con su familia (abuelos, tíos, etc.), o con amigos. Algunos de estos cambios implican también una sensación de pérdida. Una reacción normal ante cualquier pérdida es el dolor.
- [Ciclos](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/ciclos/)
- [Diferentes aspectos sobre las edades y etapas de desarrollo](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/diferentes-aspectos-sobre-las-edades-y-etapas-de-desarrollo/) - Reacciones de los niños y respuestas adecuadas de los padres. [1] 1. Infantes hasta los 2 años . Los niños de esta edad sienten la tensión pero no pueden entender el conflicto. Aumentan la dependencia hacia los padres y sienten ansiedad cuando se separan de ellos. Pueden experimentar: irritabilidad, hiperactividad, rabietas, problemas para dormir, llanto; rechazo a la comida, se
- [Diferentes aspectos sobre las edades y etapas de desarrollo (parte 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/diferentes-aspectos-sobre-las-edades-y-etapas-de-desarrollo-parte-2/) - Niños de 2 a 5 años Reacción Comportamiento del niño Respuesta adecuada de los padres Confusión El niño no entiende qué está pasando y por qué. Los padres deben dar explicaciones simples. Regresión Mojar la cama, chuparse el dedo, hablar como bebés. Ésta es una reacción normal, no castigue al niño. Busque ayuda profesional si el problema
- [Diferentes aspectos sobre las edades y etapas de desarrollo (parte 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/diferentes-aspectos-sobre-las-edades-y-etapas-de-desarrollo-parte-3/) - Niños de 9 a 12 años Reacción Comportamiento del niño Respuesta adecuada de los padres Enojo Expresa su enojo con facilidad. Usa el enojo como defensa contra el dolor, la depresión, el impacto y la negación. Reconozca el enojo de su hijo, no lo ignore. Intente cambiar algunas de las cosas por las que está molesto. Tenga
- [Diferentes aspectos sobre las edades y etapas de desarrollo (parte 4)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/diferentes-aspectos-sobre-las-edades-y-etapas-de-desarrollo-parte-4/) - Niños de 13 a 18 años Reacción Comportamiento del niño Respuesta adecuada de los padres Dolor Siente Dolor al perder la relación padre-hijo en un tiempo tan difícil como es la adolescencia. Es muy importante que sea honesto/a con el adolescente y no haga cosas que puedan hacer perder su confianza. Enojo Siente enojo contra sus padres
- [Cuestionario](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/cuestionario-2/) - Cuestionario
- [Cosas que los padres dicen que confunden y minimizan el amor y la confianza de los hijos](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/cosas-que-los-padres-dicen-que-confunden-y-minimizan-el-amor-y-la-confianza-de-los-hijos/) - Algunas veces los padres se encuentran tremendamente enojados el uno con el otro por el divorcio, y dicen cosas que pueden dañar a los hijos. Algunos ejemplos son: El divorcio fue idea de tu madre/padre, yo no lo quería. Escucha como me siento y siente pena por mí. Dile a tu padre/madre que te lo
- [Competencia entre Padres](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/competencia-entre-padres/)
- [Procure no separar a sus hijos del otro padre](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/procure-no-separar-a-sus-hijos-del-otro-padre/) - Estos comportamientos hieren a los hijos y es muy común que los padres los usen durante o después del divorcio. Negar la existencia del otro padre: no permitir fotos de él/ella en el cuarto de los niños, prohibir conversaciones con el otro padre o ignorarlo/a en lugares públicos, hacer que sus hijos se sientan culpables
- [Cuestionario](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/cuestionario-3/) - Cuestionario
- [No convierta a sus hijos en pequeños adultos](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/no-convierta-a-sus-hijos-en-pequenos-adultos/) - En hogares donde hay crisis, ya sea por divorcio, enfermedad o muerte de uno de los padres, es normal que los niños asuman responsabilidades de adultos durante un período de tiempo. Esto se llama "falsa paternidad". Algunos ejemplos son: Los niños tienen que cuidar del padre/madre y proveer seguridad y control. Cuando los padres se
- [Mejor la comunicación: Los "mensajes yo"](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/mejor-la-comunicacion-los-mensajes-yo/) - Comunicar los sentimientos es una de las cosas más difíciles que hay. Una fórmula sencilla para comunicar nuestros sentimientos honestamente y al mismo tiempo respetar los sentimientos de otros se llama "yo quiero que tú sepas". Con los "mensajes yo", usted comunica cómo se siente, qué lo/la hizo sentirse de esta manera y cómo le
- [Mensajes "Yo"](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/mensajes-yo/)
- [Mejor la comunicación: Escuche activamente](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-2/mejor-la-comunicacion-escuche-activamente/) - Escuchar activamente significa poner atención a lo que nos están diciendo y hacer saber a los demás que los comprendemos (haciendo contacto visual, usando frases como "ya veo" o moviendo nuestra cabeza en señal de afirmación). Significa además no dar consejo, juzgar o criticar, sino más bien escuchar y concentrarse en lo que le están
- [Introducción](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/introduccion-3/) - Todos los niños que experimentan el divorcio de sus padres pasan por un período de sufrimiento de una manera u otra. En la segunda parte le ayudaremos a descubrir maneras en que usted puede ayudarlos durante este tiempo difícil tanto para usted como para ellos.
- [Derechos de los niños cuando sus padres se divorcian](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/derechos-de-los-ninos-cuando-sus-padres-se-divorcian/) - Al divorciarse, es normal que usted se asegure de conocer todos sus derechos, pero se olvide de los derechos de sus hijos. Los niños tienen derecho a: Tener una relación significativa con el padre y la madre. A mantenerse separados de las diferencias y problemas entre los padres. A amar a los dos padres. A
- [Ayundando a los niños a través del divorcio](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/ayundando-a-los-ninos-a-traves-del-divorcio/) - Sus hijos necesitan apoyo emocional durante toda su infancia, pero especialmente durante el tiempo del divorcio. La siguiente es una lista de aspectos fundamentales para sus hijos. Asegúrese de que está dándole a sus hijos la atención que necesitan. Consuelo: hágales saber que el divorcio no es su culpa y que tanto usted como el otro
- [Estilos de paternidad](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/estilos-de-paternidad/) - Ahora que está atravesando por un divorcio, usted puede revisar el estilo de paternidad que usa con sus hijos. Éste es el momento ideal para hacer los cambios que necesite hacer. Aquí le presentamos tres estilos comunes de paternidad, dos de ellos (el autocrático y el permisivo) se encuentran en esquinas opuestas. Revíselos para ver
- [Estilos de Paternidad](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/estilos-de-paternidad-2/)
- [Razones por las cuales los niños se portan mal](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/razones-por-las-cuales-los-ninos-se-portan-mal/) - Usted puede responder mejor al mal comportamiento de sus hijos cuando comprende por qué lo están haciendo. Aquí hay algunas razones: Cuando quieren llamar la atención: cuando los niños se portan mal por llamar la atención, hay varias cosas que usted puede hacer: Ignore el mal comportamiento, pero déles atención cuando se portan bien. Puede
- [Cuestionario](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/cuestionario-4/) - Cuestionario
- [Relaciones entre los padres después del divorcio](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/relaciones-entre-los-padres-despues-del-divorcio/) - Después del divorcio, la relación que usted tenga con el otro padre puede variar y ser conflictiva, tolerante o cooperativa. Lea las descripciones de cada una y decida en cuál etapa están ustedes. En conflicto, uno o los dos padres: hay enojo y sentimientos de resentimiento acerca del matrimonia y del proceso de divorcio que
- [Paternidad compartida: hablando de negocios](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/paternidad-compartida-hablando-de-negocios/) - Al llevar una paternidad compartida, usted se mantiene conectado con el otro padre para decidir aspectos importantes del cuidado y la crianza de los hijos. Usted reconoce que los hijos necesitan del padre y de la madre tanto antes como después del divorcio. El mirar a la paternidad compartida como un negocio, ayuda a separar
- [Paternidad compartida](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/paternidad-compartida/)
- [Conclusión](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-3/conclusion-2/) - Las herramientas que se presentan en este folleto pueden ser de más utilidad cuando usted se da cuenta de que todo gira alrededor de una idea principal: la manera en que usted puede ayudar más a sus hijos es cuando usted y el otro padre trabajan juntos, es decir, cooperan el uno con el otro,
- [Para Terminar el Curso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-4/para-terminar-el-curso-2/) - Estamos ciertos que este curso ha creado consciencia de muchos asuntos que enfrentan las relaciones y la educación de los hijos. Family Matters actualmente ofrece un curso adicional sobre el Impacto del Divorcio en los Adultos, con cursos adicionales en desarrollo. Evaluación y Examen del Curso Completado Para finalizar el curso y recibir su certificado
- [Evaluación del Curso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-4/evaluacion-del-curso-2/) - Evaluación del Curso
- [Cuestionario](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-ninos/module-4/cuestionario-5/) - Para finalizar el curso y recibir su certificado de finalización, usted necesitará completar la evaluación del curso y el examen del curso. Complete primero la evaluación. Una vez que haya contestado todas las preguntas en la evaluación se le dará la contraseña para tomar el examen. La calificación para aprobar el examen es de 80%
- [Aviso de Derechos de Reproducción](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-1/aviso-de-derechos-de-reproduccion/) - Todos los materiales en este curso son propiedad intelectual © 2022 Family Affairs. Además, todo el material de Parents Forever (Padres para Siempre) es propiedad intelectual de la Universidad de Minnesota. La propiedad intelectual Family Affairs no aplica a cualquier material basado en el Internet al cual haya enlaces desde este curso. Los enlaces al material externo
- [Copyright Notice](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-1/copyright-notice-4/) - All materials in this course are copyright © 2006-2022 Family Affairs. Additionally, all of the Parents Forever material and video are copyright © 2004 Regents of the University of Minnesota. You must obtain permission to reproduce, copy or share any of this information. Copyright or use inquiries of the Parents Forever program should contact: Copyright Coordinator,
- [Finishing the Course](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-4/finishing-the-course-6/) - We are certain that this course has created awareness of many of the issues facing relationships and parenting. Family Matters also offers the remaining courses in the Parents Forever program - Impact of Divorce on Children, Impact of Divorce on Adults, Legal Issues and the Role of Mediation in Divorce, and Pathways to a New
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- [What is Child Abuse?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/what-is-child-abuse/) - Neglect is an act of omission by parents, guardians, or others responsible for the care of children. Neglect means failing to provide adequate food, clothing, shelter, as well as necessary medical and dental care; it also means failing to protect children from conditions or actions that endanger children’s physical of mental health. Physical abuse is an act of commission by parents,
- [Rules for Being Human](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/rules-for-being-human/) - Just as we can have unrealistic expectations, we may forget that we are human. The following may apply to you prior to, during or following a relationship. If you feel uncomfortable with any statement, as it pertains to your current relationship, reflect back and apply the statement to your teenage years. Keep the statements that
- [Unrealistic Expectations](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/unrealistic-expectations/) - When you are single, it is natural to have dreams about what life will be like when you’re part of a couple. These dreams often become unrealistic expectations you may not even realize you have. Once a relationship has faltered or failed, it is helpful to go back and recognize that your own unrealistic expectations
- [Copyright Notice](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-1/copyright-notice-2/) - All materials in this course are copyright © 2006-2022 Family Affairs. Additionally, all of the Parents Forever material and video are copyright © 2004 Regents of the University of Minnesota. You must obtain permission to reproduce, copy or share any of this information. Copyright or use inquiries of the Parents Forever program should contact: Copyright Coordinator,
- [Copyright Notice](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-1/copyright-notice/) - All materials in this course are copyright © 2022 Family Affairs. You must obtain permission to reproduce, copy or share any of this information. Copyright or use inquiries of this program should contact: Family Affairs, LLC, PO Box 1929, Montgomery, Tx 77356. The Family Affairs copyright does not apply to any internet-based material to which there are
- [Four Parenting Styles](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/four-parenting-styles/)
- [Sexually Transmitted Diseases](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/sexually-transmitted-diseases/) - Part of keeping yourself safe, for your own sake as for well as the sake of your children, is to become knowledgeable about sexually transmitted diseases. “Protection” may have meant something quite different when you were last single. Below is offered some basic information on sexually transmitted diseases, and what can be done to project
- [Using the Monthly Cost Tables 3-9](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/using-the-monthly-cost-tables-3-9/) - First, let's find the estimated costs for a two-parent family. 1. Look at Table 3, Monthly Housing Costs by Family Type and Income Level. 2. Use a pencil and circle the gross income range closest to your current situation as a two-parent family. There are three income levels. Lower (less than $41,700) Middle ($41,700 to
- [Money Conflicts](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/money-conflicts/) - Six Steps to Managing Money Conflict As you discuss your personal and child-centered goals with the other parent, disagreement or conflict may surface. Note that these are not the same: disagreement is a difference of opinion, while conflict is more threatening and may become unreasonable and angry. When the term "conflict" is used here, it
- [How Do You Spend Your Money?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/how-do-you-spend-your-money/) - Tracking Your Spending Patterns Tracking your spending patterns within the divorce process has several phases. The financial needs will probably vary in each phase. Below are links to a Monthly Payment Worksheet and a Calendar for Tracking Household Spending Patterns. Print out these tools and use them as guides to determine your current spending patterns
- [Conclusion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/conclusion-3/) - Your future holds many possibilities: you may reconcile with the other parent; you may continue on as a single parent; you may become involved in a serious new relationship; you may marry again. In each case, the divorce will have an influence on your new life. That is why learning all you can to improve
- [Guidelines for Stepparents](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/guidelines-for-stepparents/) - Based on their experiences as stepparents and their work with step parenting couples and groups, Sharon and James Turnbull offer these ten guidelines for stepparents. Provide neutral territory. Each child needs a place to call his/her own. When two sets of children are brought together, one group may think of themselves as the sub-family unless
- [Issues for Stepfamilies](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/issues-for-stepfamilies/) - Child discipline is a major source of marital stress in stepfamilies. Approaches to discipline need to consider the fact that stepfamilies are different from other families. Discipline problems often reflect unresolved feelings about the divorce. Stepfamilies must go through a process to become functioning families. Don't expect instant family. Children have no choice in divorce
- [Stepfamilies](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/stepfamilies/) - Basics About the Development of Stepfamilies Creating a new or blended family is a process that goes through many stages. It is unrealistic to expect that a new relationship and subsequent remarriage will go smoothly and that everyone will be happy right from the start. To make sure that unrealistic expectations don't create additional stress,
- [Impact of a New Relationship on the Uncoupled Parent](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/impact-of-a-new-relationship-on-the-uncoupled-parent/) - Serious dating relationships are often developed by one or both parents following divorce, but parents don't often find new partners simultaneously. If you are not in a serious dating relationship and the other parent is, you may experience some or all of these reactions. Note, too, that if you are in a serious relationship and
- [Helping Your Children Adjust to New Relationships After Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/helping-your-children-adjust-to-new-relationships-after-divorce/) - Give serious consideration to your own emotional needs and those of your children before beginning a new relationship. Don't get into a new relationship out of loneliness. Deal with your feelings first. Take time to heal yourself emotionally. Tell the children about any new relationships yourself, alone, without the new partner there, so they have
- [New Relationships](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/new-relationships/) - Developing New Social Ties It is important to avoid throwing yourself into a new romantic relationship before you have gained some distance and healing from the divorce. Give yourself time-experts suggest a year or more to build a new social network. Don't be afraid to seek support from your parents and siblings, but keep adult
- [Single Parenting](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/single-parenting/) - 10 Tips for Single Parents Take care of yourself. You must meet your own needs before you can meet your children's needs. Build a community of friends, coworkers, support groups, and other single parents. Remember, the wider your community, the better for both you and your children. Ask for help. Sources include your neighbors, extended
- [What About the Children?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/what-about-the-children/) - Children almost always wish to have their parents together again; they want both parents under one roof. But they also want peace and harmony in their home again so they can go about the business of growing up. As you consider reconciling with the other parent, be aware of the fantasies your children are likely
- [Should My Marriage Be Saved?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/should-my-marriage-be-saved/) - As you question whether your marriage should be saved, keep the following questions in mind. Beneath all the hurt and pain, do I still love the other parent? It takes two to make a bad marriage. What part am I playing in it? I am not a bad person and neither is the other parent.
- [Developing New Social Ties](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/developing-new-social-ties/) - This element for a new life may take years to build, but you can begin right now: develop new social ties; establish a support network that works for you. Sometimes this means strengthening ties with your own parents, your siblings, or other members of the family you grew up in. Often it means making new
- [Redefining Parental Roles](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/redefining-parental-roles/) - Redefining your roles with the other parent is another necessary element for a new life. One of children’s greatest fears is that they will lose one or both of their parents. This is often heightened after a divorce because both parents are typically angry with each other, either avoiding each other or arguing. Current research
- [Essential Elements for a New Life](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/essential-elements-for-a-new-life/) - Letting Go This element for a new life is the most important, because everything follows from it. As you learn to let go of the attachment, caring, and loyalty to the other parent, the future becomes possible. Some parents realize they should never have married; some conclude they should not have married each other; some
- [Skills for a New Life](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/skills-for-a-new-life/) - Communication Skills for a New Life To some degree, you have already developed these essential communication skills. Now is an excellent time to sharpen them and use them to help you build the kind of future you want for yourself and your children. Talk it out We all need a chance to talk about our
- [Purpose of This Session](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/purpose-of-this-session-3/) - To teach parents how to effectively communicate with the other parent, with their children, and with new friends or partners To review with parents changes that need to be made in order to move on from divorce To examine whether divorce is necessary To help parents adjust to single parenthood To acquaint parents with likely
- [Welcome & Course Objectives](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-1/welcome-course-objectives-2/) - Welcome! Parents Forever™ is an educational course designed to improve the quality of the parental relationship in situations of divorce. The overall emphasis is to offer children the opportunity to grow in a home environment free from being caught in the middle of parental conflict. Parents Forever™ is a research-based program designed to help parents learn how
- [Disclosures & Policies](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-1/disclosures-policies-3/) - Disclosure Statement The material in this course was developed by educators at the University of Minnesota Extension. The material is provided as educational material. Course material is not intended as a substitute for legal, ethical or clinical advice. It is not consultation and is not treatment. The course expresses the opinion and understanding of the
- [Copyright Notice](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-1/copyright-notice-3/) - All materials in this course are copyright © 2006-2021 Family Affairs. Additionally, all of the Parents Forever material and video are copyright © 2004 Regents of the University of Minnesota. You must obtain permission to reproduce, copy or share any of this information. Copyright or use inquiries of the Parents Forever program should contact: Copyright Coordinator,
- [Start Here](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-1/start-here-3/) - Course Navigation & Organization This course is divided into sections. Each section contains links to Family Affairs web pages and documents. There are also links to external websites. Most people will not complete the course in one sitting. You can log out and log back in to the course at any time using your password
- [The Journey Through Family Transition](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/the-journey-through-family-transition-2/) - But what about the children? What is their experience of family transition? If the parents have been able to keep conflict to a minimum or even if they do argue, most kids are not thinking about their family changing through divorce or separation. Suddenly, one parent may be gone. Often the children don’t get much
- [Disclosures & Policies](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-1/disclosures-policies/) - Disclosure Statement The material in this course is provided as educational material only. Course material is not intended as a substitute for legal, ethical or clinical advice. It is not consultation and is not treatment. The course expresses the opinions and understanding of the authors in relation to professional literature, other course materials, and other
- [Declaración de Divulgación](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-1/declaracion-de-divulgacion/) - El material en este curso está basado en práctica clínica establecida, experiencia clínica e investigación. El material es proporcionado como material educativo. El material del curso no tiene la intención de sustituir la asesoría legal, ética o clínica. No es consulta y no es tratamiento. El curso expresa la opinión y entendimiento del autor en
- [Course Evaluation](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-3/course-evaluation/) - Please answer all questions on this form.
- [Finishing the Course](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-3/finishing-the-course-5/) - We are certain that this course has created awareness of many of the issues facing relationships and parenting. Family Matters currently offers additional courses on the Impact of Divorce on Children, Impact of Divorce on Children, Money Issues in Divorce, and Pathways to a New Life. Complete Course Evaluation & Certification To finish the course
- [How to Find a Mediator](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/how-to-find-a-mediator/) - Ask someone you know and trust who has used mediation services for referrals. Ask professionals (attorneys, therapists, clergy) for referrals. Look in directories (see information/resources section below). Develop a list of mediators. Check with your local county to see if the court system in your area offers mediation services Request mediators' written qualifications (required in
- [Custody](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/custody-2/) - Legal custody is the right to determine your child(ren)'s upbringing, including education, health care, and religious training. Sole legal custody means one parent is given the responsibility to determine the child(ren)'s upbringing, including education, health care, and religious training. Joint legal custody means that both parents have equal rights and responsibilities, including the right to participate in major
- [The Retainer](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/the-retainer/) - How Much Do I Pay My Attorney? The costs involved in paying an attorney begin with a retainer. A retainer is a contract between the attorney and the client that sets the terms of the legal relationship. It spells out the hourly rate for the lawyer, including time your lawyer spends on the telephone discussing
- [Disclosures & Policies](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-1/disclosures-policies-4/) - Disclosure Statement The material in this course was developed by educators at the University of Minnesota Extension. The material is provided as educational material. Course material is not intended as a substitute for legal, ethical or clinical advice. It is not consultation and is not treatment. The course expresses the opinion and understanding of the
- [Three Stages to Setting Child-centered Goals](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/three-stages-to-setting-child-centered-goals/) - When people are told to set spending goals, they frequently are unable to account for the money that is available; often, they don't know how they feel about this money. A goal-setting process will help you focus on both your own needs and those of your children. Three stages of goal-setting must occur when households
- [Disclosures & Policies](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-1/disclosures-policies-5/) - Disclosure Statement The material in this course was developed by educators at the University of Minnesota Extension. The material is provided as educational material. Course material is not intended as a substitute for legal, ethical or clinical advice. It is not consultation and is not treatment. The course expresses the opinion and understanding of the
- [Finishing the Course](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-3/finishing-the-course-4/) - Complete Course Evaluation & Quiz To finish the course and receive your certificate of completion, you will need to complete the course evaluation. Completion After you have successfully completed the course materials and the evaluation, a certificate of completion will be immediately available to you. It will be dated on the day you complete the
- [Parenting Plans (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-plans-part-3/)
- [Co-parenting is Your Business (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/co-parenting-is-your-business-part-3/) - It is important to: Use written methods of communication – letters, emails – and save a copy for reference. Provide information to the other parent such as schedules, notices of school events, important contact information, etc., without being asked. Encourage your child’s relationship with the other parent. Understand there is more than one way to
- [Parenting Plans (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-plans-part-2/) - How the court uses Parenting Plans When parents develop their own plan: The plan is reviewed by the court. The court determines if both parents fully understand and agree to the terms. The plan must meet the “best interests of the child” standard. The plan may be attached to the divorce decree. In cases where
- [Parenting Time (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-time-part-2/) - Moving between two homes can take a lot of energy for children. Here are some ways that children may view parenting time and how you can reassure them. Children May Think Actions you can take: I’m excited to see Dad, but worry that this will make Mom upset. It’s not unusual for children to feel
- [Strategies for Shared Parenting](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/strategies-for-shared-parenting/) - As a parent sharing the time and tasks of raising your children, it’s important to know what makes a successful co-parenting arrangement. Here are some suggestions to help both you and the other parent succeed with shared parenting. Be someone your child can count on to be there when you say you will. It is
- [Parenting Tools (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-tools-part-2/) - Ways to promote positive behavior These tools help you promote positive behavior, nurture your children, and reinforce and build positive behavior. Love them no matter what they do. Spend time together. Catch your child being good. Encourage our children to have their own thoughts and beliefs. Trust your children to behave the best they can.
- [Parenting Styles (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-styles-part-3/) - What is the best parenting style? Research has found that the most effective parenting style is a positive or authoritative approach. In other words, you practice the nurturance, self-discipline, and respect you expect from your children. Children raised with a Positive Parenting style tend to do better – they have fewer behavior problems, better mental
- [Parenting Styles (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-styles-part-2/) - Dominating or Autocratic Dominating parents are highly demanding, but not responsive. They are firm believers in rules and have high expectations for behavior. They show love by expecting the best from their children, but rarely show affection. Communication is generally one way – from parent to child. Sometimes they can be rigid and harsh in
- [Parenting Styles](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-styles/) - One area of conflict you may have with the other parent is a difference in parenting styles. Parenting style captures two important elements of parenting: parental responsiveness(warmth or supportiveness) and parental demandingness (expectations for behavior). Based on this, there are considered to be four parenting styles: Positive or Authoritative, Dominating or Autocratic, Permissive, and Unengaged.
- [How Loss Affects My Child](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/how-loss-affects-my-child/) - Print this page and complete the following table for each of your children. What has been lost in my child’s life? What stays the same in my child’s life? What are gains in my child’s life?
- [Abandonment (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/abandonment-part-2/) - Abandonment Happens in Different Ways Abandoning Parent The child: Has no relationship with one of the parents. The child may never have known the other parent or there was a relationship in the past but the parent is no longer in the child’s life. The parent: Is practicing the most obvious form of abandonment by
- [Abandonment](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/abandonment/) - We know that children need a relationship with both of their parents; however, sometimes this is not possible. When children do not have contact with their other parent, it is important that you assure them:None of their thoughts, words, or actions were the reason the abandoning parent left.They are loved and cherished.There are times everyone
- [Co-parenting is Your Business (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/co-parenting-is-your-business-part-2/) - Here are some guidelines for a business relationship: Be civil – courtesy and respect for each other is required. Keep your emotions in check– if you feel things heating up, discontinue the conversation and make another appointment to address the issue in the future. Be someone the other parent can trust – keep your word,
- [Co-parenting is Your Business](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/co-parenting-is-your-business/) - Divorce and family transition mean you and other parent must redesign your family and your relationship. It’s important to let go of the conflict, hurt, and negative emotions and find a way to work together to raise your children. One way to do this is to look at parenting as your business. Like a successful
- [Parallel Parenting Discussion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parallel-parenting-discussion/)
- [Parallel Parenting](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parallel-parenting/) - Parenting apart can make the trip happier for kids and parents! How is the ride for your children? Are you and the other parent: Not communicating and not building a plan to parent together? At cross-purposes with each other, not agreeing on major points of child-rearing? Each unreasonable with the other parent? Inflexible about plans,
- [What is Co-parenting? (Part 6)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/what-is-co-parenting-part-6/) - Disengaged There are two ways parents disengage. First, in order to move along the continuum from Conflictual to Cooperative, parents need to disengage from their conflict. This helps parents develop a more business-like relationship that can lead to parallel or cooperative parenting. A business-like relationship is respectful and courteous, is task oriented, is not highly
- [What is Co-parenting? (Part 5)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/what-is-co-parenting-part-5/) - There are four common approaches to co-parenting: Cooperative In this situation, conflict is low, both parents communicate well, share in the decision-making process, and make sure they have frequent and regular contact. Children do the best when their parents can cooperate. Cooperative parents believe that by working together life will become better. Their children benefit
- [What is Co-parenting? (Part 4)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/what-is-co-parenting-part-4/) - Four Approaches to Co-parenting Relationships When parents stop living together and parent in separate homes, they need to develop a co-parenting relationship that focuses on the needs of their children. The quality of this relationship has a huge impact on the well-being of the children.
- [What is Co-parenting? (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/what-is-co-parenting-part-3/) - What undermines the co-parenting relationship? Conflict between parents Focusing disagreements with the other parent around the child – putting your child in the middle of parental conflict Undermining the other parent by siding with your child in an effort to be the favorite parent or creating loyalty conflicts What may happen over time when there
- [Respect for the Other Parent is a Gift You Give Your Children](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/respect-for-the-other-parent-is-a-gift-you-give-your-children/) - You can be respectful to the other parent by communicating with him or her and deciding together how to resolve issues concerning your child. This will show your child that even though you are not together, both of you will provide love and support. Remember, you are a role model for your child. How both
- [What is Co-parenting? (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/what-is-co-parenting-part-2/) - When parents have a good co-parenting relationship: Infants and toddlers develop more secure attachments – a foundation for building relationships and learning about the world around them. Children learn through example about healthy relationships and how to cooperate. Parents use more effective parenting strategies. Basically, having two involved parents benefits a child, no matter what
- [What is Co-parenting?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/what-is-co-parenting/) - Co-parenting is working together to raise your child or children. How well you do this makes a big difference in your child’s well-being. A good co-parenting relationship means: Both parents support each other in their efforts to raise their child. Both parents work to reduce conflict and focus on the needs of the child. Both
- [Building Your Co-parenting Relationship](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/building-your-co-parenting-relationship/) - When two or more people raise a child, they need to find a way to work together. This involves negotiating roles, setting expectations, and supporting each other in the task of parenting. This is referred to as co-parenting. Divorce and family transition requires parents to renegotiate their roles in order to co-parent in different homes.
- [Children's Rights / Parent's Responsibilities (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/childrens-rights-parents-responsibilities-part-3/) - Adapted with permission from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers Special Concerns of Children Committee (March 1998). Words to remember… “Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution.” –Kahlil Gibran (no known date) “Children are good observers. They are not good interpreters.” – Isolina Ricci (2006)
- [Children's Rights / Parent's Responsibilities](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/childrens-rights-parents-responsibilities/)
- [Children's Rights / Parent's Responsibilities (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/childrens-rights-parents-responsibilities-part-2/)
- [Active Listening (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/active-listening-part-2/) - Three keys to successful active listening: Talk less and listen more. Avoid being judgmental or defensive. Listen for feelings as well as ideas. Nine suggestions to improve listening skills: Stop talking. Concentrate on the other person. Put the other person at ease. Remove distractions. Be patient. Hold your temper. Go easy on argument and criticism.
- [Improving Communication: Active Listening](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/improving-communication-active-listening/) - Active Listening Active listening means paying careful attention to what other people are saying. It means letting them know you are paying attention by nodding, making eye contact, and responding with phrases such as “I see.” It is important to be an active listener with your children, especially when they are distressed. As an active
- [“I” Messages (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/i-messages-part-3/) - “You” statements sound like blame, criticism, or accusations and are judgmental. They are also used to make demands, generalize, and bring up the past. “I” statements, on the other hand, are not blaming, critical, accusatory, or judgmental. I messages send clear messages, are specific, and let the speaker express his or her needs and feelings.
- [“I” Messages (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/i-messages-part-2/) - “I” messages should have these parts: Feelings of the speaker – “I feel _______________________...” Actions of the listener – “…when _______________________...” Consequences of the behavior – “…because _______________.” Request for change – “Would you please_________________?” Now it’s your turn… Here are some sample “You” messages. Take some time and practice changing them into “I” messages.
- [Are you Alienating Your Children from the Other Parent?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/are-you-alienating-your-children-from-the-other-parent/) - Most children benefit from a positive relationship with both parents following separation and divorce. In many cases parents are able to co-parent successfully and share the care of their children with the help of a parenting plan. However, when there is high conflict, some parents put their children in the difficult position of making them
- [“Games” Parents Play (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/games-parents-play-part-2/) - What Are the “Games” Parents Play? When we think about games, we usually think of happy, fun times with our families. There are other “games” that parents sometimes play, especially after a divorce, that lead to putting children in the middle and interfere with effective co-parenting. Here are some of the most popular “games” seen
- [“Games” Parents Play](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/games-parents-play/) - Are You Working Against or With the Other Parent? Your relationship with the other parent has an impact on how your children view themselves and how they view the other parent. Being considerate and thoughtful and treating each other with dignity is a wise investment in creating a respectful relationship. Which of the following describes
- [Emotion Coaching:  A Tool to Help Your Child (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/emotion-coaching-a-tool-to-help-your-child-part-2/) - The Five Steps of Emotion Coaching Emotional awareness Connecting with our children on an emotional level requires that you tune into their thoughts and feelings. Talking with your children about their feelings helps them recognize and deal with emotions. You will also need to take clues from their behavior, body language, and in some cases,
- [Emotion Coaching:  A Tool to Help Your Child](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/emotion-coaching-a-tool-to-help-your-child/) - What is emotion coaching? Emotion coaching is a way to help your children understand their feelings and learn how to cope with stress and negative emotions. For you it means recognizing your children’s feelings and being able to empathize, soothe, and guide them. For children it means learning how to control impulses, delay gratification, motivate
- [Family Transition:  What Children Need from Their Parents as They Grow (Part 7)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/family-transition-what-children-need-from-their-parents-as-they-grow-part-7/) - Young Adults Once a child turns 18, you may no longer have a court-ordered legal and financial obligation to support him or her, but you do continue to be a parent. There are many paths young adults take –leaving home for the first time to live on their own, going to college and needing a
- [Family Transition:  What Children Need from Their Parents as They Grow (Part 6)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/family-transition-what-children-need-from-their-parents-as-they-grow-part-6/) - Adolescence As children grow through adolescence, they are exploring who they are and transitioning their relationship with you from child to young adult. It’s typical for teens to crave independence(as long as you are there to help when they need it), want you at a distance(but not too far), and value the opinions of their
- [Psychological Tasks for Children Experiencing Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/psychological-tasks-for-children-experiencing-divorce/) - Divorce is a stressful experience for children. Children may go through a period of adjustment similar to the grief process and, as part of this adjustment, they are likely to have a series of psychological tasks to deal with. These tasks happen in addition to the normal developmental tasks of growing up. Understanding the divorce
- [Family Transition:  What Children Need from Their Parents as They Grow (Part 5)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/family-transition-what-children-need-from-their-parents-as-they-grow-part-5/) - Late Elementary (9 to 12 Years) Your child is increasingly independent. Parents matter, but friends do, too. As your child gets closer to becoming a teenager, you have the best opportunity to lay the groundwork for a relationship that will keep you connected when the child reaches the teen years. Your child needs you to
- [Family Transition:  What Children Need from Their Parents as They Grow (Part 4)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/family-transition-what-children-need-from-their-parents-as-they-grow-part-4/) - The Elementary Years Early Elementary (6 to 8 Years) This is the time of “doing.” Your child’s world now includes school, making new friends, and learning new skills. Children this age are also very aware of changes in the family and the fact that families are different. They watch how you and their other parent
- [Family Transition:  What Children Need from Their Parents as They Grow (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/family-transition-what-children-need-from-their-parents-as-they-grow-part-3/) - Preschool (3 to 5 Years) Your children are growing – they are able to do more on their own and are beginning to learn what their feelings mean. They benefit from opportunities to be with other children and learn how to get along with others. They are becoming their own person, but their parents are
- [When Children Cycle through Grief and Loss](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/when-children-cycle-through-grief-and-loss/) - Children’s grief is not a single event that happens at one specific point in time. Children deal with grief and loss differently than adults. Researchers have found that children’s grief about a death happens in an ongoing fashion that continues and “cycles” as they grow and mature. In a similar way, the grief and loss
- [Family Transition:  What Children Need from Their Parents as They Grow (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/family-transition-what-children-need-from-their-parents-as-they-grow-part-2/) - Toddlers (18 Months to 3 Years) Your toddlers’ job is to explore their world and develop a sense of themselves separate from their caregivers. They need you to guide them, keep them safe, and help them learn. They thrive on consistent routines. Separating from a parent can make them anxious. Because divorce and family transition
- [Family Transition: What Children Need from Their Parents as They Grow](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/family-transition-what-children-need-from-their-parents-as-they-grow/) - The Early Years Infants (Birth to About 18 Months) Many parents assume that because babies are so young, they don’t know and can’t understand what is happening to their family. Not true. Babies are very aware of emotional changes in their parents. They notice when routines are upset. They get stressed when the parents they
- [Ambiguous Loss](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/ambiguous-loss/) - Families who experience divorce and family transition also experience loss. For children, the loss can be described as “ambiguous loss.” Ambiguous loss is: A feeling of loss when a situation is complex and confusing. A feeling of loss when a person may seem to be present and not present at the same time. A feeling
- [How to Talk to Your Children About Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/how-to-talk-to-your-children-about-divorce/) - Our children already know about the separation/divorce. Now what? Even if you have told them about a separation or divorce, your children may need to talk about this major change in their life several times. The way you talk should convey love, understanding, and assurance that they will be cared for. It should communicate to
- [What Affects a Child’s Adjustment to Divorce (part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/what-affects-a-childs-adjustment-to-divorce-part-2/) - Decreased economic opportunities Divorce often reduces the standard of living for parents and their children. Lack of money may cause children to worry, especially if it affects their involvement in their usual activities – school events, sports and lessons. Support your children emotionally and financially. Discuss money issues with them from the point of view
- [What Affects a Child’s Adjustment to Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/what-affects-a-childs-adjustment-to-divorce/) - Parents and children experience divorce and family transition very differently. As a parent, you need to look at the divorce from the child’s point of view. Understanding and paying attention to the ways divorce affects children lets you help your child adjust to the changes in your family. Stress of separation Many times, children have
- [The Journey Through Family Transition](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/the-journey-through-family-transition/) - When families separate or divorce, every member of that family is on a journey. As illustrated below, in many cases these journeys begin and end in different places. In general there are lots of “ups” and “downs” and no two journeys are exactly the same. Let’s look at members of a hypothetical family as they
- [The Draw/The Battle](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/the-draw-the-battle/) - Introducing "The Draw" This segment shows what happens when parents feel anger, and how children react. In the heat of anger, parents may focus on the grievances throughout the relationship, whether recent or ancient. But children tend to assume responsibility for their parents' anger through their own actions, wishes, or dreams. From a child's perspective,
- [Session One](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/session-one-introduction/) - Introduction Everyone going through a family transition has his or her own story. Each story is unique. For parents, transition happens when there is a divorce, the parents separate, or parents who are not married or living together look for ways they both can be involved in raising their child. For children, transition means they
- [Welcome and Course Objectives](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-1/welcome-and-course-objectives/) - Welcome! Parents Forever TM is an educational course designed to improve the quality of the parental relationship in situations of divorce. The overall emphasis is to offer children the opportunity to grow in a home environment free from being caught in the middle of parental conflict. Parents Forever TM is designed to help parents learn how to make informed,
- [Conclusion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/conclusion-6/) - Having less money is not an easy adjustment and many-if not most-parents experience this during divorce. Many are unprepared for all the things that are needed for children in a one-parent household. Besides the changing family unit, the number of children and the ages of those children will also affect your present costs of raising
- [Factors and Questions to Be Considered](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/factors-and-questions-to-be-considered/) - Many divorcing parents must consider the following items. You may have others to add that are unique to your situation. Housing Two homes are now needed and you will have moving or transition costs. You and the other parent must consider a safe environment for your children. You will likely need to buy some duplicate
- [Estimating the Costs of Raising Your Children](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/estimating-the-costs-of-raising-your-children/) - Obviously, the financial picture changes for both parents and their children in the divorce process. If your income was in the upper range as a two-parent family, chances are that it will remain in the upper range as a one-parent family. However, if your income was in the middle range as a two-parent family, it
- [Discussion Questions](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/discussion-questions/) - In most cases there will be a considerable difference in the dollar amounts estimated for the two-parent household and the one-parent household. (In the case study the amount may seem small, remember the children in the study are young.) Ask yourself these questions: Will the amount between two- and one-parent households be this close for
- [Comparing the Cost Estimates of Raising Children](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/comparing-the-cost-estimates-of-raising-children/) - To Estimate Child Support - Case Study 1 Andrew was ordered to pay child support for his two sons, Jeffery (5) and James (8). Andrew has two minor children and the Child Support amount is $500 per month. Refer to "Understanding Child Support, A Handbook for Parents", Minnesota Department of Human Service for Child Support
- [Economies of Scale](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/economies-of-scale/) - These are cost adjustments made for the number of people in the family unit. Costs are adjusted upward for smaller families and downward for larger families. Table A. Adjustment Factors for Number of Children in Family Household (Economies of Scale Table) Two-parent household One-parent household Number of Children in Family Oldest Youngest Oldest Youngest One
- [Case Study 1](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/case-study-1/) - This is the situation at the time of divorce. Andrew (32) and Kate (30) have been married 10 years. The couple has two children, Jeffrey (5) and James (8). Andrew is employed as a laborer for a large company. His gross annual income is $27,040. His net income is $20,280. Kate is employed as a
- [Categories for Estimating the Cost of Raising Children](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/categories-for-estimating-the-cost-of-raising-children/) - How much of a family's yearly income is spent on the children? This session walks you through a national set of figures that estimate the cost of raising children of several ages in both two parent (Table I) and one-parent (Table 2) families. The dollar amounts in the tables are guidelines based on the U.S.
- [Purpose of Session 2](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-3/purpose-of-session-2/) - Introduction This portion of Money Issues in Divorce will show you how to begin estimating cost of raising your children. The class will explain how to use the worksheets to help you arrive at some of these figures. For many, this can be a confusing subject, and there may not be time for one-on-one help in your
- [Protecting Children Against Future Risks](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/protecting-children-against-future-risks/) - Health insurance Parents with custody of the child can get health insurance for him or her through the noncustodial parent's employment-related insurance program, according to a federal law adopted as part of the Consolidated Omnibus Budget Reconciliation Act (COBRA). Under COBRA, divorced spouses of employed medical plan participants can pay for their own coverage for
- [Tracking Saving/Investment Assets](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/tracking-saving-investment-assets/) - The objective here is to aim for assets that meet your individual needs, and the needs of your children, allow you to sleep at night, and keep your taxes to a minimum. Which investments will be best for you depends on several factors, such as your future plans, current age, risk tolerance, income needs, and
- [Retirement Benefits](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/retirement-benefits/) - Initial Information Retirement plans can be complicated and confusing, but it is an area you can't afford to step over lightly. Securing assets for your future allows you to concentrate on the security of your children now. Having a retirement plan is like owning a car; you don't really own your car till you payoff
- [Housing Decisions](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/housing-decisions/) - What's first? If you are a homeowner, the home is likely the biggest asset you share with the other parent. The home also has a lot of meaning and emotional attachment. Ask yourself: Who put what into our home? Who gets how much out of it? Who pays for it? What future housing is in
- [Establishing Debt Load](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/establishing-debt-load/) - When you divorce, you not only divide property but debt as well. You and the other parent must reach an agreement about how debts will be handled. In general, you both are responsible for paying any debts that you acquired during the marriage. If you work carefully to resolve these items during divorce, you'll have
- [Money Facts Checklist](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/money-facts-checklist/) - The items listed below are facts to gather together as you begin divorce proceedings. Put a check beside the items you have. Cross out items that don't apply to you or the other parent. Gather the following documents: Tax returns-state and federal-for the past 5 years Pre- and post-marital (nuptial) agreements Previous divorce documents including
- [Self Study](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/self-study/) - Collecting Money Facts Marriage usually involves being connected to another person financially as well as emotionally. It is helpful to realize that emotional and financial separations from the other parent are different processes; people usually come through divorce in a better financial state if they do this. People also tend to make better decisions for
- [Conclusion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/conclusion-5/) - Presented here was a discussion of the enormous change in money resources many parents experience during divorce. Difficult feelings of grief and loss usually accompany these money changes. A big step toward acceptance of these changes is gathering the facts: How much money did you have available to you before the divorce? How did you
- [When Conflict Management Is Not Possible](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/when-conflict-management-is-not-possible/) - The conflict-management process described here assumes that both parents have agreed to work on the problem. If you are the only one who thinks there is a problem, then you can only address the parts of the situation over which you have control. If this is the situation you face, you can adjust your view
- [Talking with Children About Money](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/talking-with-children-about-money/) - Money Talk-Family Style Your children are exposed to many information sources, including newspapers, TV news, and the World Wide Web. You probably discuss a variety of issues with your children. But do you avoid financial issues? Do you involve your children in making money decisions or is family money top secret? Now is a very
- [Reassessing Goals Due to Money Changes](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/reassessing-goals-due-to-money-changes/) - Financial changes in divorce affect your personal goals as well as your goals for your children. It is harder to decide on child-centered goals if each parent has not first determined his or her personal goals. Share with your children both your personal goals and the goals you have for them. Talking about it gives
- [Money Goals](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/money-goals/) - Setting New Goals For parents, divorce creates turmoil in finances, emotions, and relationships. But children are also deeply affected. For example, they quickly pick up on their parents' money situation and on the hostility and anger parents often feel as a result of all the changes. One block to setting such goals is the emotional
- [Rethinking How to Spend Money](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/rethinking-how-to-spend-money/) - Reassessing How Money Will Be Used Note the three columns on the right-hand side of Worksheet 1, which you will need to complete for three sections: before divorce during divorce after divorce Worksheet 1 Worksheet 2 Depending on where you are in the divorce process, the tracking system described in the previous section can help you
- [Preparing for the Changes](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/preparing-for-the-changes/) - Most people going through divorce want to keep everything just as it always was, even though life is no longer the same. Divorce will likely challenge your natural need for security and financial stability. But remember that the changes you are experiencing can lead to a more meaningful life, especially when you and your children
- [Recognizing Grief Over Money Changes](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/recognizing-grief-over-money-changes/) - As discussed in Impact of Divorce on Children, when people experience any major loss they go through certain stages of grief. The stages of grief that Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross* developed in her research on death and dying can also explain what happens to people who experience severe income loss. People who experience grief and loss, for whatever
- [Adjusting to Money Changes](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/adjusting-to-money-changes/) - Identifying the Consequences of Money Changes The financial issues of divorcing couples with children are as varied as the individuals involved. This section will help you work through the consequences of these changes. We will consider emotional, social, and financial effects of income loss. These effects overlap; they affect both personal and household decisions. It
- [Purpose of Session 1](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-2/purpose-of-session-1-2/) - The purpose of this session is To help you understand how money changes will affect your emotional, financial, and social life To help you adjust to grief and loss in ways that support both you and your children To help you gain an understanding of, and to prepare for, financial changes To help you identify
- [Welcome & Course Objectives](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-1/welcome-course-objectives-4/) - Welcome! Parents Forever™ is an educational course designed to improve the quality of the parental relationship in situations of divorce. The overall emphasis is to offer children the opportunity to grow in a home environment free from being caught in the middle of parental conflict. Parents Forever™ is a research-based program designed to help parents learn how
- [Start Here](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-1/start-here-5/) - Course Navigation & Organization This course is divided into sections. Each section contains links to Family Matters web pages and documents. There are also links to external websites. Most people will not complete the course in one sitting. You can log out and log back in to the course at any time using your password
- [Bienvenidos y Objetivos del Curso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-1/bienvenidos-y-objetivos-del-curso/) - ¡Bienvenido! Parents ForeverTM es un curso educativo diseñado para mejorar la calidad de la relación de los padres en situaciones de divorcio. El énfasis general está en ofrecer a los niños la oportunidad de crecer en un ambiente de hogar libres de quedar atrapados en medio del conflicto de los padres. Parents ForeverTM es un programa basado
- [Introducción](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/introduccion/) - En esta parte podrá aprender sobre el impacto que puede tener el divorcio en su vida. Se discutirán temas importantes relacionados con el proceso del divorcio, el manejo del enojo y del estrés así como información básica que toda familia que esté atravesando por un divorcio debe conocer para poder identificar situaciones de abuse que
- [Entender el proceso del divorcio](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/entender-el-proceso-del-divorcio/) - Las seis etapas del divorcio. [1] Las personas que se divorcian pasan por seis etapas. Lo ideal es poder llegar con éxito a la última etapa, la del divorcio psicológico. 1. Divorcio emocional: aquí es común experimentar sentimientos de: Desconfianza hacia su pareja. Un vacío en la relación. Dolor por experimentar el rechazo diario de su
- [Factores que determinan el efecto del divorcio en su vida.](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/factores-que-determinan-el-efecto-del-divorcio-en-su-vida/) - Cómo el divorcio lo/a afecte va a depender de: Si es usted él/la que decidió divorciarse o él/la que se siente abandonado/a por su compañero/a. Su edad. La edad de sus hijos (si tiene hijos pequeños, adolescentes o adultos). Si el alcohol o las drogas eran parte del problema por el cual se divorció. Si
- [Comprender el enojo y el conflicto](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/comprender-el-enojo-y-el-conflicto/) - Tipos de enojo. [1]Hay dos tipos de enojo:1. Enojo viejo: está compuesto por cosas del pasado que nos molestan o heridas que no han sido sanadas. Esto incluye: Problemas que no han sido resueltos o solucionados con el padre del sexo opuesto (su propio padre o madre).Injusticias, dolores, frustraciones, traiciones y pérdidas que usted haya experimentado con sus padres
- [Técnicas para minimizar el enojo](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/tecnicas-para-minimizar-el-enojo/) - Escriba un diario: puede escribir acerca de sus sentimientos, acciones y el proceso de crecimiento por el que está pasando. Puede escribir sobre qué áreas todavía le molestan y posibles maneras en que puede lidiar con esto. Escriba una carta (pero no la mande): puede escribir sobre su enojo sin herir a nadie. Cuando esté
- [Sugerencias para manejar mejor el enojo](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/sugerencias-para-manejar-mejor-el-enojo/) - Cuando quiera controlar mejor su enojo, recuerde: Cuando un asunto le molesta, hable al respecto. A veces guardarse las cosas puede causarle peores problemas (aumentar el resentimiento, la amargura, etc.). Escoja un buen momento para hablar sobre lo que le molesta. Hablar cuando está sumamente enojado/a no es una buena idea, especialmente si sus hijos
- [Divorcio y estrés](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/divorcio-y-estres/) - Reacciones ante el estrés [1] Cuando enfrentamos una situación que causa mucho estrés, como el divorcio, es muy común que experimentemos alguna de las siguientes reacciones: Molestias físicas (como dolores de cabeza o dolores de espalda). Cambios en las emociones (experimentar enojo o depresión, por ejemplo). Pensamientos que pueden expresar ansiedad sobre el futuro, o ideas
- [Estrategias para manejar el estrés](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/estrategias-para-manejar-el-estres/) - Divorciarse puede causar mucho estrés. Usted puede experimentar este estrés antes, durante y después del divorcio. Aquí le presentamos cuatro maneras en que puede prevenir y reducir el estrés. Estrategias físicas: el ejercicio físico es el método más efectivo para manejar el estrés. Una buena nutrición también ayuda. Usar métodos de relajamiento pueden ser útiles
- [Aspectos que toda familia que enfrenta un divorcio debe saber](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/aspectos-que-toda-familia-que-enfrenta-un-divorcio-debe-saber/) - Violencia doméstica Violencia doméstica incluye golpear, abofetear, empujar, patear, pellizcar; arrebatar, sofocar, jalar el pelo, morder, forzar a tener actos sexuales, amenazar con una arma peligrosa o poner a una persona en temor de recibir algún daño corporal. La violencia doméstica es un tipo de abuso físico que se considera un crimen. Muchos hombres y
- [Abuso causado por el cónyuge: poder y control](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/abuso-causado-por-el-conyuge-poder-y-control/) - Además de abuso físico y sexual, su pareja puede abusarlo/a de muchas maneras. A continuación se describen ciertas tácticas que también se consideran abuso. Es posible que el uso de estas tácticas aumente durante el proceso de separación y divorcio aún cuando la violencia física nunca haya ocurrido. 1. Amenazas. Amenazar con hacerle daño. Amenazar
- [Señales de alerta](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/senales-de-alerta/) - Los siguientes indicadores pueden ayudarle a evaluar si el/la agresor/a puede llegar potencialmente a matar: Amenaza con cometer un homicidio o suicidarse: una persona que hace este tipo de amenazas debe considerarse extremadamente peligrosa. Tiene fantasías de homicidio o el suicidio que le gustaría cometer: cuanto más haya pensado el abusador en detalles como quién,
- [Maneras de evadir este tipo de abuso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/maneras-de-evadir-este-tipo-de-abuso/) - No acepte favores del otro padre. Solamente acéptele dinero que ha sido ordenado por la corte. Guarde distancia entre usted y el otro padre, no acepte hacer viajes con él/ella. Si decide volver a tener citas amorosas con su antigua pareja, esté consciente del mensaje confuso que le está dando, esto lo/la puede poner en
- [Refugios de emergencia para víctimas de abuso doméstico](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/refugios-de-emergencia-para-victimas-de-abuso-domestico/) - Algunas situaciones de violencia requieren que la familia vaya a un refugio. En la mayoría de los refugios sólo se aceptan mujeres y niños (menores de 16 años, aunque hay excepciones). Generalmente la familia puede quedarse ahí por un número limitado de días, pero la familia es libre para dejar el refugio en cualquier momento
- [Sobre el abuso infantil](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/sobre-el-abuso-infantil/) - El abuso infantil incluye una serie de conceptos que son explicados a continuación:[1] Abandono significa que los padres, guardianes u otras personas encargadas de los niños no proveen la comida, vestimenta, vivienda, atención médica y dental que los niños necesitan. También significa no proteger a los niños de situaciones que puedan causarles daño físico o
- [Enfermedades de transmisión sexual (ETS)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/enfermedades-de-transmision-sexual-ets/) - Parte de la idea de mantenerse seguro/a, por el bien suyo y de sus hijos, implica aumentar su conocimiento sobre enfermedades de transmisión sexual (ETS). Las ETS son un grupo de enfermedades que pueden ser causadas por virus, bacterias y parásitos y que pueden afectar los órganos sexuales, la garganta y el recto. Las ETS
- [Conclusión](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-2/conclusion/) - El proceso de divorcio puede ser muy complicado, es importante que conozca cual etapa está atravesando y que tome los pasos necesarios para poder llegar a un divorcio psicológico y a pensar en usted, sus hijos y su futuro. Esperamos que pueda poner en práctica las estrategias para manejar el enojo y el estrés, pues
- [Para Terminar el Curso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-3/para-terminar-el-curso/) - Estamos ciertos que este curso ha creado consciencia de muchos asuntos que enfrentan las relaciones y la educación de los hijos. Family Matters actualmente ofrece un curso adicional sobre el Impacto del Divorcio en los Adultos, con cursos adicionales en desarrollo. Evaluación y Examen del Curso Completado Para finalizar el curso y recibir su certificado
- [Evaluación del Curso](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-3/evaluacion-del-curso/) - Evaluación del Curso
- [Cuestionario](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impacto-del-divorcio-en-los-adultos/module-3/cuestionario/) - La calificación para aprobar el examen es de 80% y usted podrá revisar su calificación inmediatamente después de terminarlo, así sabrá si lo ha aprobado. Usted puede tomar el examen hasta 3 veces. Estamos comprometidos con su éxito, así que por favor comuníquese con nosotros si tiene cualquier dificultad con el examen. Después de que
- [The Draw/The Battle](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/the-draw-the-battle-2/)
- [Conclusion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/conclusion-4/) - Whether you have just begun the legal process of divorce, are in the midst of it, or have even concluded it for the present, more information can be helpful. This session has shown you how to select a lawyer, along with effective ways to use your lawyer and how lawyers' fees are determined. Other aspects
- [When Might Mediation Not Work?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/when-might-mediation-not-work/) - Does mediation work in families where there has been spousal abuse? This question has been debated among professionals for at least the last decade. One side of the debate views mediation as inappropriate when parents do not have equal power or bargaining skills. Spousal abuse can affect the safety of parents and can have a
- [The Ins and Outs of Mediation](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/the-ins-and-outs-of-mediation/) - About the mediator Mediators help you and the other parent to define problems, identify and consider options, and reach mutually agreeable solutions. Typically, mediators then put all agreements in writing, for you and the other parent, for the lawyers, and for the courts. Some mediators ask the lawyers to put the agreement in writing. Mediators
- [What Mediation Does](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/what-mediation-does/) - Many decisions need to be made in divorce. If you and the other parent cannot reach agreements on your own, the courts will make decisions for you. An advantage of mediation is that you and the other parent come together in the spirit of cooperation rather than opposition. Not only does mediation grant you more
- [What Is Divorce and Child-Custody Mediation?](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/what-is-divorce-and-child-custody-mediation/) - Mediation is a form of alternative dispute resolution. The goal of mediation is to help you and the other parent make divorce and child-custody decisions that meet your needs, the child(ren)'s needs, and the needs of the other parent. Mediation is a cooperative process: both you and the other parent to make a sincere effort
- [Legal Process and Procedure](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/legal-process-and-procedure/) - The legal process of divorce varies from state to state. The law does not require you to have a lawyer in order to get a divorce. However, a lawyer can be very helpful when determining custody and parenting time issues. For instance, some states have no-fault divorce. This means that it is not necessary to
- [How to Select a Divorce Lawyer](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/how-to-select-a-divorce-lawyer/) - Good legal advice is very important in the divorce process. The task of selecting a lawyer can be difficult, particularly if you, like many parents, are already distressed about the prospect of divorce and the changes it will bring. How to Find Family Law Attorneys Finding a lawyer may seem overwhelming at first, especially if
- [Five Methods for Making Divorce Decisions](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/five-methods-for-making-divorce-decisions/) - Negotiation Parents talk alone and make decisions together. Conciliation Parents talk with a friend or counselor to resolve issues. Mediation Parents use a qualified neutral mediation professional to work through decisions. Only with mutual agreement can a decision become binding. Arbitration Parents talk through a neutral third party and not to each other. A decision
- [Purpose of Session 1](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-2/purpose-of-session-1/) - To give you information about various methods of negotiating your divorce To provide you with a list of questions to consider when choosing a lawyer To acquaint you with the costs involved in the legal process To acquaint you with the meanings of legal terms and how they might apply to your situation To acquaint
- [Welcome & Course Objectives](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-1/welcome-course-objectives-3/) - Welcome! Parents Forever™ is an educational course designed to improve the quality of the parental relationship in situations of divorce. The overall emphasis is to offer children the opportunity to grow in a home environment free from being caught in the middle of parental conflict. Parents Forever™ is a research-based program designed to help parents learn how
- [Start Here](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-1/start-here-4/) - Course Navigation & Organization This course is divided into sections. Each section contains links to Family Matters web pages and documents. There are also links to external websites. Most people will not complete the course in one sitting. You can log out and log back in to the course at any time using your password
- [Finishing the Course](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-4/course-evaluation-5/) - We are certain that this course has created awareness of many of the issues facing relationships and parenting. Family Affairs currently offers additional course on the Impact of Divorce on Adults, Money Issues in Divorce, Legal Issues and the Role of Mediation in Divorce, and Pathways to a New Life, which you might find helpful. Complete
- [Credits](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/credits-2/) - CreditsMoney Issues in Divorce Curriculum GroupJanene Baedke, Extension EducatorSharon Danes, Professor, Family Social ScienceJean W. Bauer, Professor, Family Social ScienceKathleen Lovett, Extension EducatorKathyrn D. Rettig, Professor, Family Social SciencePatricia Stumme, Extension EducatorSelf-Study ReviewersShirley Anderson-Porisch, Extension EducatorClaire althoff, Extension EducatorRevisions 2005Janene Hodges Gilman, Regional Extension EducatorJean W. Bauer, Professor, Family Social ScienceFind more University of Minnesota
- [Resources](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/resources-7/) - ResourcesOnline ResourcesControlling Anger before it Controls You(http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html)Perception: A Key Variable in Family Stress Management (http://www.extension.umn.edu/distribution/familydevelopment/DE2776.html)Coping with stress and change (http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1637.pdf)Stress - Taking Charge : Helping Children Manage Stress http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1660F.pdfUnderstanding Abuse : Spouse & Partner Abuse http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1478X5.pdfThe Violence Wheel( http://www.domesticviolence.org/wheel.html)PDF FilesDivorce Matters - Coping with stress and changeDivorce Matters - Talking With Your Child's Other ParentFact Sheet for Recognizing
- [Course Evaluation](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-4/course-evaluation-4/) - Course Evaluation
- [Course Completion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/money-issues-in-divorce/module-4/course-completion-3/) - Course Completion
- [Glossary of Legal Terms](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/glossary-of-legal-terms/) - Glossary of Legal TermsAdjudication litigationA court process in which lawyers speak to each other on behalf of their clients and guide their client's disclosure of information. This is an adversarial process in which a third person, a judge, makes the final decisions based on each lawyer's argument, statutory requirements, case decisions, and formal rules, such discovery
- [References](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/references-2/) - ReferencesAlaska Judicial Council. 1995. A Consumer Guide to Selecting a Mediator. Alaska Judicial Council, 1029 W. 3rd Avenue, Suite 201, Anchorage, AK 99501.Association of Family and Conciliation Courts. Is for You? Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, 329 W. Wilson St., Madison, WI 53703.Draves, Wendy. 1995. Mediation. (Member of Winona County Divorce Transition Team and available from Director, Family Service of
- [Resources](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/resources-6/) - CreditsLegal Issues and the Role of Mediation, Curriculum CommitteeMadeline Alberts, Children, youth and Family Initiative Program Leader, University of Minnesota Extension ServiceM. Kathleen Mangum, Farm Mediation, University of Minnesota Extension ServiceRevisions 2003Barbara Radke, Regional Extension Educator, University of Minnesota Extension ServiceMinnell Tralle, Family Relations Specialist, University of Minnesota Extension ServiceRevisions 2005Minnell Tralle, Family Relations Specialist,
- [Course Evaluation](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-3/course-evaluation-3/) - Course Evaluation
- [Course Completion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/legal-issues-and-the-role-of-mediation-in-divorce/module-3/course-completion-2/) - Course Completion
- [Course Evaluation](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-4/finishing-the-course/) - Course Evaluation
- [Session Two Conclusion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/session-two-conclusion/) - When your family changes because of divorce or separation, there are choices you can make. You can challenge each other , fight over money, custody, and parenting time and stay connected through your conflict. You can disengage – leave the family and have minimal contact with your children. You can agree to disagree – a better strategy,
- [Parenting Plans](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-plans/) - A Parenting Plan is a written agreement between parents who are not living together in the same home. A Parenting Plan helps you decide together what is best for your children. Parenting Plans describe: Parenting decisions about the care of the child or children. Residential arrangements and parenting time. How to deal with disagreements. How
- [Custody (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/custody-part-3/) - Making Custody a Win-win Solution There are two important things to keep in mind as you and the other parent determine what kind of custody arrangement you will have for your children: Your plan needs to be beneficial to the children. Both of you must feel you have made a fair arrangement that keeps you
- [Custody (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/custody-part-2/) - Children do better when: They have regular time with both parents. Their parents are committed to reducing conflict. Their parents get the support they need to adjust to the new parenting situation. Both of you need to be supportive and positive about the importance of your child spending time with the other parent. A parenting
- [Custody](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/custody/) - What Type of Custody Arrangement Should We Have? As parents, you need to decide about two types of custody for your children: Legal How will you decide issues relating to your child’s health and welfare? Physical Who will provide day-to-day care and a home for your child? In addition, you need to determine if legal
- [Strategies for Shared Parenting (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/strategies-for-shared-parenting-part-2/) - Communicate with your child when you aren’t together. It is important to have a plan for staying in touch with your child when you don’t have parenting time. A regular phone call or, for older children, the use of email, text messaging, or other technology can work well. It is essential that both you and
- [Parenting Tools (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-tools-part-3/) - Strategies for addressing misbehavior by applying discipline that teaches These are different strategies for when your child misbehaves that help your children learn to behave more appropriately in the future. Let children safely experience the consequences of their actions. Take away a privilege. Expect the child to fix it or pay for it. Set and
- [Parenting Tools](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-tools/) - Parenting Tools You need tools to discipline and nurture your children. A tool is a technique or strategy you use to influence how your child behaves. These tools will change for children at different ages, with different temperaments, and in different situations. Your most effective tool is the relationship you build with your child. The
- [Parenting Styles (Part 5)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-styles-part-5/) - What happens when parents have different parenting styles or can’t agree on rules and discipline? It is not uncommon for parents to have different parenting styles. This creates challenges in their co-parenting relationship. When parents are living in the same household, a parent with a warm, responsive, positive style can serve as a “buffer” to
- [Parenting Styles (Part 4)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-styles-part-4/) - How Positive Is Your Parenting Style? Read the following statements. Check whether you “Usually”, “Sometimes”, or “Rarely” do the described behavior. Usually Sometimes Rarely Your expectations for your child’s behavior are reasonable based on the child’s development. You encourage your children to express their opinions. You involve your children when you set limits, expectations, rules,
- [Parenting for Families in Transition](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-for-families-in-transition/) - Parenting on your own is both a challenge and an opportunity. The challenge is you are a single parent. If you have been less involved in parenting you may feel unsure about your skills. If you were more involved with the child-rearing tasks, you may feel confident about what to do, but overwhelmed by being
- [Co-Parenting Your Children - Key Topics](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/co-parenting-your-children-key-topics/) - • Children’s Rights and Parents’ Responsibilities • Building Your Co-parenting Relationship • Four Approaches to Co-parenting Relationships • Parallel Parenting • Co-parenting Is Your Business • Parenting for Families in Transition • Parenting Tools • Strategies for Shared Parenting • Custody • Parenting Time: Through Your Child’s Eyes • Parenting Plans • Conclusion • Important Information About Our Child
- [Co-Parenting Your Children - Objectives](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/co-parenting-your-children-objectives/) - To learn strategies for effective co-parenting To understand how parenting style affects the parent child relationship To develop strategies for shared parenting To understand the value of a parenting plan for co-parenting
- [Owning Your Feelings](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/owning-your-feelings/) - Divorce can be a time to change your style of parenting. Note that habits can die hard and it might be tough to change styles, but awareness of how you approach your children is an excellent start. While you are watching this video, try to answer the following questions: Do any of the styles in
- [Improving Communication: "I" Messages](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/improving-communication-i-messages/) - Talking about our feelings isn’t easy. It is easy to hide our feelings, especially when we think no one is listening or cares to hear how we feel. When we have strong feelings in conflict, especially anger, we often use “You” statements. These are statements that start with “you” and that accuse, blame, or belittle
- [Divorce and Family Transition:  Through Your Child’s Eyes (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/divorce-and-family-transition-through-your-childs-eyes-part-3/) - Children look at the world in a different way from adults. Here are some things your children may believe about the changes in your family and what they need to hear from you. Your Child may think: What they need to hear: I am the reason my parents are getting a divorce – if I
- [What My Child Needs (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/what-my-child-needs-part-2/) - No matter what their age, all children need: Emotional support Economic support Effective parenting Freedom from parental conflict What is your plan for meeting these needs for each child?
- [Grief and Loss](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/grief-and-loss/) - Is there a Difference Between Divorce and Death? Family transitions create many kinds of “loss” for children. Children feel two profound losses when parents divorce: the loss of their family as they know it and the loss of one parent in their daily lives. When change and loss are experienced, we react to the event
- [Finishing the Course](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-3/finishing-the-course-3/) - We are certain that this course has created awareness of many of the issues facing relationships and parenting. Family Matters currently offers an additional course on the Impact of Divorce on Children, with additional courses in development. Complete Course Evaluation & Quiz To finish the course and receive your certificate of completion, you will need
- [Bibliography](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/bibliography/) - Clapp, Genenve. Divorce & New Beginnings. John Wiley & Sons , 1992. Fisher, Bruce. Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends. Impact Publishers, 1981. McKay, Rogers, Blades and Gosse. The Divorce Book. New Harbinger Press, 1984. Spanier, Graham & Thompson, Linda. Parting: The Aftermath of Separation and Divorce. Sage, 1984. Vaughan, Diane. Uncoupling. Oxford Press, 1986. Wallerstein, Judith. Second Chances. Ticknor & Fields, 1989. Wallerstein, Judith & Kelly, J. Surviving
- [10 Holiday Tips for Divorced Parents](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/10-holiday-tips-for-divorced-parents/) - From Sharyn T. Sooho Divorce is emotionally draining, especially during the holidays and special occasions. Divorced parents must communicate with even more diplomacy, patience, mutual understanding, respect, and tolerance than married couples planning holiday travel, dinners, reunions and gift-giving. Juggling schedules during marriage is hard, and it only gets harder after divorce. Here are 10
- [Emergency Shelters for Domestic Abuse Victims](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/emergency-shelters/) - Some situations may require family members to seek safe shelter. If you are leaving a relationship where there has been a history of domestic violence, review this information. The majority of domestic abuse agencies house only women and children. In most areas of the nation, you would qualify for emergency shelter in a domestic abuse
- [To Avoid Spousal Abuse](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/to-avoid-spousal-abuse/) - Do not accept favors from the other parent. Only take court-ordered money from the other parent. Do not take trips with the other parent. Put distance between yourself and the other parent. If you attempt to date the other parent, be aware that you are sending double messages and the confusion you create may well
- [Signs of Potential Abuse](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/signs-of-potential-abuse/) - The following indicators can be used in making an assessment of a batterer’s potential to kill: Threats of homicide or suicide. Batterers who have threatened to kill self, partner, children, or partner’s relatives must be considered extremely dangerous. Fantasies of homicide or suicide. The more batterers have developed a fantasy about who, how, when, and/or where to
- [Tactics of Spousal Abuse: Power and Control](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/tactics-of-spousal-abuse/) - Numerous tactics of abuse accompany physical and sexual abuse. It is possible that you will see an increase in the following behaviors as you move through the separation and divorce process, even if physical violence has never occurred. Coercion and threats Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt you Threatening to commit
- [Domestic Assault](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/domestic-assault/) - Examples of assault include hitting, punching, slapping, pushing, pinching, kicking, grabbing, chocking, pulling hair, tripping, biting, beating, forcing sexual acts, threatening with a dangerous weapon, or placing one in fear of immediate bodily harm. Perpetrators may be the other parent or someone with whom you live or have lived. Battering and physical abuse, including domestic
- [Coping Strategies for Stress](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/coping-strategies-for-stress/) - Before, during, and after divorce, the face of stress may change any number of times. Each person is unique and no solution for coping with stress works for everyone. Likewise, methods you used when your relationship was first unraveling may not work as well for you now, and what works for you now may not
- [Diagnosing Reactions to Stress](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/diagnosing-reactions-to-stress/) - Prolonged stress affects us in all of the following categories. However, our reaction to stress is stronger in some categories than others. Take a few moments to identify your current stress reactions. Physical symptoms (e.g., headaches, back pains) Emotions (e.g., sudden anger, depression) Thoughts (e.g., anxiety about job loss; self-talk such as “I can’t do it,” or, “I
- [Dos and Don’ts of Managing Anger](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/dos-and-donts-of-managing-anger/) - Do speak up when an issue is important to you. Obviously, we do not have to personally address every injustice and irritation that comes along. To simply let something go can be an act of maturity. But it is a mistake to stay silent if the cost is feeling bitter, resentful, or seriously unhappy. We
- [Techniques for Diffusing Anger](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/techniques-for-diffusing-anger/) - Write in a journal Journaling means writing down your feelings, actions, and the process of growth in change. Strong emotions can sometimes weaken when put on paper. Reflect on your growth to see which issues continue to surface; think about other ways you might deal with your issues. Write (but don’t send) a letter A
- [Anger Facts](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/anger-facts/) - Anger is a choice. We choose to be angry Anger has payoffs. What do you gain by your anger? Anger can be a positive force. It can be a spark to light a fire and move you in a chosen positive direction. As a secondary emotion, anger has other emotions behind it. What emotions trigger
- [Understanding Anger and Conflict](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/understanding-anger-and-conflict/) - Letting Go of Anger People need, want, and hope to be loved to be valued for who they are. We all want to be accepted by others and ourselves for who we are. We all deserve unconditional love. A large part of letting go of anger is learning to accept ourselves, to respect ourselves. Another
- [Impact of Divorce on Adults Will Depend on](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/impact-of-divorce-depends-on/) - Whether you are the initiator or the partner being left Your life stage and age Your life experience and developmental age The ages of your children (infant, toddler, youth, adolescent, adult Whether alcohol or other drugs were involved (alcohol and other chemicals stop the developmental clock) Whether your parents divorced – and your age at
- [Six Stages of Divorce](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/six-stages-of-divorce/) - Basic principles in every divorce All divorces are different, yet they share common elements. We all have the right to pursuit of happiness, no matter what others might say. Some individuals should not have married at all, should not have married each other, or should not have married when they did. When we discover this
- [Gender Differences](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/gender-differences/) - Parents must understand that the well-being of their children requires both parents. Often, the process of divorce ignores the important role fathers play in parenting. Many fathers are very unsure of parenting if they have been less involved or feel less competent. In addition, fathers often get a clear message that they are important only
- [Purpose of this Session](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/purpose-of-this-session-2/) - The purpose of this session is: To help you develop an understanding of the effects of divorce on your life and how change is a process To help you understand the dynamics of divorce To help you learn ways to identify and manage anger To better acquaint you with your stress signals and suggest ways
- [Introduction & Purpose of this Session](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/introduction/) - Introduction During this session you will learn about the impact divorce will have on your life. You will gain a better understanding of the process of divorce and how much of your life divorce affects. You will look at tools to help you adapt to a new life. This session also examines unrealistic expectations people
- [Welcome & Course Objectives](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-1/welcome-course-objectives/) - Welcome! Parents Forever™ is an educational course designed to improve the quality of the parental relationship in situations of divorce. The overall emphasis is to offer children the opportunity to grow in a home environment free from being caught in the middle of parental conflict. Parents Forever™ is a research-based program designed to help parents learn how
- [Skills for a New Life (Page 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-2/skills-for-a-new-life-page-2/) - Be aware of your interpretationsWhen you hear others talk, you may assume you know what they’ve said, as well as what they intended or how they felt. But many interpretations are really responses to “silent” language – cues, such as body language or tone of voice, that we can easily misread. Be aware that you
- [Credits](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/credits/) - CreditsMadeline Alberts, Children, Youth and Family initiative Program LeaderMelissa Persing, Extension Educator, University of Minnesota Extension ServiceSandra Syverson, Extension Educator, University of Minnesota Extension Service
- [Resources](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/resources-5/) - Resources Online Resources Controlling Anger before it Controls You (http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html) Perception: A Key Variable in Family Stress Management (http://www.extension.umn.edu/distribution/familydevelopment/DE2776.html) Coping with stress and change (http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1637.pdf) Stress - Taking Charge : Helping Children Manage Stress http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1660F.pdf Understanding Abuse : Spouse & Partner Abuse http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1478X5.pdf The Violence Wheel ( http://www.domesticviolence.org/wheel.html) PDF Files Divorce Matters - Coping with stress and change
- [Course Evaluation](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-3/course-evaluation-2/) - Course Evaluation
- [Course Completion](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/pathways-to-a-new-life/module-3/course-completion/) - Course Completion
- [Purpose of this Session](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/purpose-of-this-session/) - The purpose of this session is: To explain the cycle of grief that children experience while adjusting to their losses To help you understand the psychological tasks children must go through before, during, and after divorce To show you how divorce affects children according to age and stages of development To demonstrate what affects a
- [Resources](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/resources-4/) - ResourcesOnline ResourcesControlling Anger before it Controls You(http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html)Perception: A Key Variable in Family Stress Management (http://www.extension.umn.edu/distribution/familydevelopment/DE2776.html)Coping with stress and change (http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1637.pdf)Stress - Taking Charge : Helping Children Manage Stress http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1660F.pdfUnderstanding Abuse : Spouse & Partner Abuse http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1478X5.pdfThe Violence Wheel( http://www.domesticviolence.org/wheel.html)PDF FilesDivorce Matters - Coping with stress and changeDivorce Matters - Talking With Your Child's Other ParentFact Sheet for Recognizing
- [Bibliografía](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/bibliografia-2/) - BibliografíaAmes , Louise Bates, and Frances Ilg. Your One-Year-Old. New York: Delta Books, 1982. (They have a series of thesebooks for each year through early adolescence.)Berman, Claire. Making It as a Stepparent: New Roles/New Rules. New York: Harper and Row, 1986.Clemes, Harris, and Reynold Bean. How to Raise Children?s Self-Esteem and How to Raise a Teenager?s Self-Esteem.Los Angeles : Price,
- [Resources](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/resources-3/) - ResourcesOnline ResourcesControlling Anger before it Controls You(http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html)Perception: A Key Variable in Family Stress Management (http://www.extension.umn.edu/distribution/familydevelopment/DE2776.html)Coping with stress and change (http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1637.pdf)Stress - Taking Charge : Helping Children Manage Stress http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1660F.pdfUnderstanding Abuse : Spouse & Partner Abuse http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1478X5.pdfThe Violence Wheel( http://www.domesticviolence.org/wheel.html)PDF FilesDivorce Matters - Coping with stress and changeDivorce Matters - Talking With Your Child's Other ParentFact Sheet for Recognizing
- [Bibliografía](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/bibliografia/) - BibliografíaAmes , Louise Bates, and Frances Ilg. Your One-Year-Old. New York: Delta Books, 1982. (They have a series of thesebooks for each year through early adolescence.)Berman, Claire. Making It as a Stepparent: New Roles/New Rules. New York: Harper and Row, 1986.Clemes, Harris, and Reynold Bean. How to Raise Children's Self-Esteem and How to Raise a Teenager's Self-Esteem.Los Angeles : Price,
- [Stress - Taking Charge](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/stress-taking-charge/)
- [Final](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-3/final/) - This exam contains 15 multiple choice and true-false questions about the material covered in this course. You have 3 attempts to achieve an 80% passing grade. To start the exam, click on the Attempt Exam Now button below. When you have completed the exam, you can review your grade and then return to the course
- [Resources](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/resources-2/) - ResourcesOnline ResourcesControlling Anger before it Controls You(http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html)Perception: A Key Variable in Family Stress Management (http://www.extension.umn.edu/distribution/familydevelopment/DE2776.html)Coping with stress and change (http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1637.pdf)Stress - Taking Charge : Helping Children Manage Stress http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1660F.pdfUnderstanding Abuse : Spouse & Partner Abuse http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1478X5.pdfThe Violence Wheel( http://www.domesticviolence.org/wheel.html)PDF FilesDivorce Matters - Coping with stress and changeDivorce Matters - Talking With Your Child's Other ParentFact Sheet for Recognizing
- [Understanding Abuse - Sexual Abuse of Children](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/understanding-abuse-sexual-abuse-of-children/)
- [Understanding Abuse - Child Abuse and Neglect](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/understanding-abuse-child-abuse-and-neglect/)
- [Understanding Abuse - Spouse and Partner Abuse](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/understanding-abuse-spouse-and-partner-abuse/)
- [Understanding Abuse - Problem Relationships](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/understanding-abuse-problem-relationships/)
- [Divorce Matters - Coping with stress and change](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-adults/module-2/divorce-matters-coping-with-stress-and-change/)
- [Cycles](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/cycles/)
- [Final Examination](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-4/final-examination/) - This exam contains 32 multiple choice and true-false questions about the material covered in this course. You have 3 attempts to achieve an 80% passing grade. To start the exam, click on the Attempt Exam Now button below. When you have completed the exam, you can review your grade and then return to the course
- [What My Child Needs](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/what-my-child-needs/) - What My Child NeedsThink about each of your children and complete the following worksheet for each child. This will give you and their other parent a good place to begin discussing your children’s needs and how you will plan for them as you go through family transition. (Print out this page)Child’s name:Age:Gender:What does my child
- [Divorce and Family Transition:  Through Your Child’s Eyes](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/divorce-and-family-transition-through-your-childs-eyes/)
- [Divorce and Family Transition:  Through Your Child’s Eyes (Part 2)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/divorce-and-family-transition-through-your-childs-eyes-part-2/)
- [Games Parents Play Video](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/games-parents-play-video/)
- [Quiz](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/quiz/)
- [Owning Your  Feelings](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-2/owning-your-feelings-2/)
- [Parallel Parenting Video](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parallel-parenting-video/)
- [Parenting Styles Video](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-styles-video/)
- [Strategies for Shared Parenting (Part 3)](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/strategies-for-shared-parenting-part-3/) - Show support for the other parent.Showing appreciation for the other parent is an important part of supporting your relationship with your child. Parenting on your own can be a challenge. You can be a resource to the other parent. This requires you to have a respectful relationship with each other and the ability to manage
- [Parenting Time](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/parenting-time/)
- [Quiz](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/impact-of-divorce-on-children/module-3/quiz-2/)
- [References](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/references/) - ReferencesPart 1 – How Children Experience Family TransitionAmerican Academy of Child &Adolescent Psychiatry (2008, May). The depressed child. Part of the Facts for Families series, No. 4. Retrieved May 2, 2010, from http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/the_depressed _ child .Allen, R. M., and Tralle, M.(2004). We agree: Creating a parenting plan. (BU-o8o19). St. Paul, MN: University of Minnesota Extension Service.Ashbourne, L., Baker, L., &
- [Resources](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/resources/) - ResourcesOnline Resources These free online resources are designed to help families experiencing divorce or separation.For Families — EnglishControlling Anger before it Controls You(http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html)Coping with stress and change(http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1637.pdf)Stress - Taking Charge : Helping Children Manage Stresshttp://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1660F.pdfUpToParents.orgSesame Street - Little Children, Big Challenges: DivorceFamilieschange.caMinistry of the Attorney General of British ColumbiaAn educational website that includes a Kids Guide
- [Finishing the Course](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/finishing-the-course-2/) - Finishing the CourseWe are certain that this course has created awareness of many of the issues facing relationships and parenting. Family Affairs currently offers additional course on the Impact of Divorce on Adults, Money Issues in Divorce, Legal Issues and the Role of Mediation in Divorce, and Pathways to a New Life, which you might find
- [Parenting Styles Video](https://www.familyaffairs.org/courses/course-unassigned/module-unassigned/parenting-styles-video-2/)

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